Redd Alert

In my earlier blogs I concerned myself with facts related to organization and leadership involved in older ministry plans.  However, one thing that strongly affects the longevity revolution in the church and church community is what I left you with the last time,  ”The greatest proportion of suicides are among the elderly” as reported by ABMA (Association of Baptist Ministries of the Aging).

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Let us look at stress factors for older adults who are believers as reported by the geriatric study department at the University of Alabama.  Then we shall turn to AARP’s study of suicide.

Professor, Michael Parker, cited several stress factors or concerns among believers pertaining to a “youth oriented culture” (the world has left us behind).

Some of those stress factors are:

• Financial concerns (real or preceived)
• Loneliness (loss of family, friends and work)
• Physical loss (real or perceived)
• Feeling of uselessness (real or perceived)
• “The past” (the cumulative effects of life-unresolved issues)
• Pride (real or perceived loss of appearance, physical and/or mental abilities)
• Spiritual immaturity (the more mature we are as believers, the better we can deal with life-changing circumstances.)

It is important for the church (us) to find the “down and discouraged” and develop a relationship with those brothers and sisters in Christ.

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Now we shall look at the AARP study as of September 15, 2009 in regard to suicide.

Diane Griffin, the AARP health writer, has compiled the following information:

1. Every 90 minutes an older American commits suicide.  Most are white males over the age of 85.  Among the young, there is about one suicide for every 100 to 200 attempts.
2. In adults over 65, there is approximately one suicide for every four attempts.
3. Older adults are successful more often than any other group.
4. Suicide rates in the elderly are highest among the divorced and widowed.
5. Although the older Americans make up only 13% of the U.S. population, they account for approximately 18% of suicides each year.

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About seven million elderly Americans suffer from some form of depression, which interferes with their ability to function.

It is important to remember that depression is not a normal part of aging.

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Conditions that increase the risk of suicide are:

1. Death or terminal illness of a loved one.
2. Divorce or separation.
3. Heath problems.
4. Loss of job.
5. Substance abuse.
6. Depression.

Warning signs of suicide:

1. Depression that quickly disappears.  This may indicate that your loved one has finalized a suicide plan.
2. Pain that can not be controlled.
3. Hopelessness, feeling that things will never improve.
4. Withdrawal, anger, irritability, sadness.
5. Declining performance.
6. Loss of interest in things that were once enjoyable.
7. Social isolation.
8. Poor Hygiene.
9. Change in sleeping or eating habits.
10. Self Starvation.
11. Ignoring medical instruction.
12. Giving away favorite possessions.
13. Talking about suicide.

Helping to prevent suicide:

• First and foremost – Take any one of these signs seriously! If a loved one expresses suicidal feelings, he/she needs immediate attention.  75% of all suicides happen after the person makes statements about suicide.

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Now that we have examined some AARP facts regarding suicide, how can the Christian community help those persons contemplating suicide?

Jesus took the initiative to seek out those that needed healing.  We have a responsibility to offer hope to those planning suicide.

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How to help:

• Listen: Let the person express his/her feelings.  You do not need to say much as long as you show your concern.  Arguing and giving advice will not help.
• Ask: Ask the person if he/she is considering suicide.  Find out if he/she has a plan.
• Do not leave: If the person is considering suicide never leave him or her alone.
• Seek professional help: This indicates that you care.

The church (you and me) has a responsibility to help those in the community where your church is located, as well as, those in our congregations.

Even if you are not a member of a church, you can do the “Jesus thing” by touching the lives of those who need help.  We need to save lives as the Holy Spirit saves souls.

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Help is out there.

Below I have listed some names of organizations that are informational, as well as, inspirational.  To access their websites I have posted, for your convenience, their links in the right-hand column of the blog page under “Blogroll”.

• National Prayer Center
• Healthfinder
• Social Security
• The Department of Health and Human Services
• National Association of Area Agencies on Aging
• AARP
• National Institute on Aging
• The Joyful Heart Newsletter
• Elderhostel
• The Christian Association of Senior Adult Ministries
• Focus Over Fifty
• The Sonshine Society
• Quiet Place
• Life Quest
• Single and Senior
• Eldercare
• Aging In America

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Next time we shall deal with the believers and the “GIANT” in his/her life.

Until then…”Godspeed”

Lou

In the last few months I have visited several older adult church groups in order to find out where they are in ministry opportunities.  There are several things that were revealed as I approached these church groups.

One of the issues that surfaced, in more than one situation, is the absence of older adult leaders.

Most leaders are over burdened with other church positions and few churches have full time or even bi-vocational older adult pastors. Yet, by 2010 older adults (50+) will comprise 40% of church congregations.  In addition, unchurched older adults are one of the largest groups in our population.

What is the answer?

Before you answer, “oh well” perhaps the following materials may help those who feel led to lead older adults who are looking to find significance in the second half of their lives.

My aim is to help that someone who feels “led to lead” receive God inspired help as I did.  After all, it is the Holy Spirit that leads; it is not about us.

Let us look at what it takes to lead older adults (50+) whether you are a lay leader or a pastor that leads older adults.

Older Adult Ministry:

Church growth indicates that as a church expands it’s ministry it needs to expand its base of leadership.

Not all of these leaders need to be licensed and ordained clergy.

“Called to lead” is very important as God does not always call the trained, but trains the called.  Therefore, the called will meet the needs of the people they serve.

Whether the leader is titled as a pastor, minister, coordinator or facilitator, he must be called and have love for the people he serves.  His job description should have the following goals:

1. To work with and within the existing older adult existing ministry program to bring it into anticipation with the total church life.
2. To become involved with the individuals currently participating in the existing program to the point of identifying their specific needs (been there, done that, continue to do that).
3. To concentrate on outreach, evangelism, ministry, for the purpose of discipling people age 50 and up.
4. To initiate new programs of service within and without the church (i.e) meals on wheels.
5. To work with assigned Deacons in Family Ministry.
6. To bring to the pastor older adult needs that require his attention.
7. To provide comfort, counsel, and referral as needed during times of personal crises.

In the past people lived in a world that did not change very quickly from generation to generation.

Western society is now much different.  Our culture is not one of harmonious continuity from generation to generation, but rather one of abrupt change.

The Second Fifty Years:

The Association of Baptist Ministries With the Aging, reported an alarming statistic, “Today the greatest proportion of suicides are among the elderly,”

Since much senior suicide goes unreported, we have evidence of an overwhelming need that exist within the older adult population.

Therefore, the church has an obligation to seek and develop leadership for the “Encore Generation” (older adult) group.

• The local church has a responsibility to evangelize them.
• The church should be a support group for believing and non-believing older adults.
• The church should provide opportunities for older adults to serve within present and new ministries.

On our next blog, we shall look at some stress factors that cause older adults to be depressed and sometimes suicidal.

Lou